Clarify Your Intention to Get Results

Often, people who have been exposed to the concept of intention confuse it with will power. As explained in chapter 2 of If How-To’s Were Enough We Would All Be Skinny, Rich and Happy, intention is not will power. Will power comes from the conscious mind, or head.

Whenever there is a conflict between the subconscious, the heart, and the head, the subconscious will always win. If you say an affirmation with the conscious mind such as, “I am a millionaire,” but your subconscious is saying “Money is scarce,” the results in your life will Read More…


Increase Your Intention Through Visualization

In a recent newsletter we talked about making commitments in order to raise the level of intention and reach our goals. Another way of increasing intention is visualization. If you doubt the power of visualization to do this, then go to a car lot and stare at your dream car. It will not take long before a sales person comes out and asks, “Can you see yourself driving this car?”

Now tell him “No,” even though you want the car! Most likely the salesperson will simply go back inside without further conversation. Why? Because he knows that Read More…


What Do Your Clothes, Car, and House Say About You?

We are all creatures of habit. We have habitual ways of brushing our teeth, of communicating with others, and habitual levels of risk we’re willing to take. But if we want to move forward in our lives, we have to break habits. A great way of doing this is to use psychological trigger devices.

A psychological trigger device is something that causes us to think, act or feel differently. An example I often use is Read More…

Three Disciplines of a Compassionate Samurai

As a graduate of Klemmer & Associates and one who practices the art of being a compassionate samurai, you understand the importance of maintaining a sharp edge on your thinking. This is an ongoing journey that requires several disciplines. Here are three things you can do to hone your life.

Cultivate Relationships: We become like the people we spend time with, and maintaining relationships with those who are like-minded — whether friends and family members, compassionate samurai, or businesspeople – can’t Read More…

Two Facets of Leadership

There are two very different facets of leadership: doing the right thing and doing things right.

What is the right thing? A right thing is something that is in alignment with a person’s purpose. The difference between having a significant life and a successful life is knowing what your purpose is and how it fits into the greater scope of the world.

Moreover, it’s important to be clear about your purpose for the day. For example, if you receive a phone call it may be a nice call to take, but it may not be the right thing because it doesn’t fit in with your purpose for that day. A lot of things can be good. But good things are not always the right things.

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Be Aware of How You Listen to Improve Your Growth

In a previous newsletter we talked about one of three ways of listening, “being with.” What are the other two ways of listening? One is to agree with whatever is being said, and the other is to disagree. We often listen from a standpoint of whether we’re going to agree with what’s being said, or whether we’re going to disagree. This is listening with a filter. It prevents us from being present–or “being with”–the person we’re talking to. Here’s an example. When one of our multi-level clients talks to someone about a business opportunity, one response might be, “Oh, multi-level. That’s a pyramid scheme.” Because they’ve heard something about multi-level marketing before, the client is being present to agree/disagree, not present with the person speaking with them. Or, the response could be positive. “Oh, network marketing, I’ve heard about that.” In this case the client is listening from an agree standpoint, but they still have a filter up. They’re not being present to the person right in front of them.

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What Viewpoint Do You Use: Victim or Responsible?

All of us have a choice in how we look at our circumstances. One choice is the victim viewpoint, the viewpoint that the events in my life are the result of something being done to me. The second is the responsible viewpoint: I am the cause for my experience because of choices I have made. A key distinction when discussing these two viewpoints is that neither victim nor responsible have anything to do with the truth. One way to understand the difference between victim and responsible viewpoints is Read More…

Getting Past Feedback Fears

Recently we discussed changing our perception about receiving feedback in order to better attain our goals. The flip side of this is giving feedback. When we offer thoughtful feedback to others, we can be part of the solution to problems. Yet why do we sometimes resist giving it? And what are some effective ways to present feedback so that others can more easily receive it?

One of the main reasons we resist giving feedback is Read More…

Taking the Fear Out of Change

How do you deal with change? Do you resist it? Do you try to ignore it and hope it goes away? Or do you embrace change?

If there’s one thing that’s true, change is here to stay. Picture yourself in a boat, in a vast ocean representing change. If you become fearful and resist the power of the ocean, you’re going to get crushed. How can you take the fear out of change and manage it so that Read More…

The Power of Possibility

Do you want to open up possibilities in your life?  There are crucial differences between living out of possibility versus probability.

Living from probability takes place when you look at what you are capable of and what you have done in the past.  From this perspective, you calculate whether you think you can do something and whether you can get incremental, or minute, increases for your life.

Living from possibility, on the other hand, is the experience of knowing that you can create incredible results or miracles in your life that have no relationship to what you’ve done before.  When you live from possibility Read More…