The Best Investment You Can Make Is In Yourself

When you consider what you should invest your time, money and effort in, try looking at yourself. You can be a worthwhile investment that can make an impact on the world around you. The time you put in improving, disciplining and educating yourself can pay dividends to you and others far into the future. When you have worked to reach your maximum potential, you are capable of unbelievable things.

When you pursue education in a field you enjoy, you are motivating yourself to have a purpose in life. Whether it is in teaching, art, business, government or medicine, this learning will give you the tools you need to help others. It also helps to expand your mind and widen your personal perspective. Read More…


When Achieving Your Goals is not Enough

The Problem of More, Better, Different

Consider Curtis. By his standards his life as a husband, father and general contractor wasn’t lacking. At 41, he made a comfortable amount of money, enjoyed his wife and kids, was a deacon in his church, and owned a house that he considered adequate. But Curtis felt like something was missing. His marriage could be better. He wanted to quit smoking and lose 25 pounds. There was a tract of land on the outskirts of town that he wanted to build a bigger house on. For that he needed to take his company to the next level. Then there was the dream of riding his motorcycle to Alaska and hiking the Colorado Trail with his son and daughter. When another contractor told him about a personal growth workshop, Curtis attended. As a result, Curtis’s marriage improved, he built a bigger house, lost 15 of the 25 pounds and over the course of two summers hiked the Colorado Trail.

Each time Curtis achieved one of his goals he felt fulfilled — at least for a time. The little tug that something was missing inevitably crept back in, though. So, Curtis redefined his goals. He quit smoking, took up running, completed a marathon. He rallied the troops and rode to Alaska. He spearheaded a trip to Bangladesh to build a school. Still, in the end, that sense of fulfillment always seemed to vaporize, like morning mist in the sun.

Can you relate to Curtis? Are you pleased that you’ve overcome self-limiting obstacles to achieve your goals, but in the end you don’t really feel fulfilled? There’s a reason for that. Read More…


How to Find Your Purpose

Do you know your purpose?

If not, you’re in the company of a lot of other people. Like those other people, you might share a feeling of aimlessness and dissatisfaction with life. Something seems to be missing, and you know there’s got to be more. But how does someone go about finding their purpose? Is there a course you can take? A book you can read? Someone you can talk to who can tell you what it is? Read More…

Listen to Your Heart

Do you sometimes struggle with making decisions over which you feel conflict? At some time or another, all of us do. When we are in this position, it’s helpful for us to be able to discern what our intuition is telling us. That is why it’s important for us to learn how to listen to our hearts.

There’s a vivid picture of this in the movie, The Sweetland. Lars, the protagonist, is conflicted over whether to sell a large tract of North Dakota farmland that he has inherited from his grandparents. On one hand Lars stands to walk away with 2.2 million dollars from the sale of this property. This is the decision Lars’ wife seems to want him to make. On the other hand, this land represents the beautiful and resilient love between Lars’ grandparents, a couple who defied stereotypes and community opposition to their marriage because she was a German mail order bride in a post-World War I setting. To top it off, Lars’s grandparents are buried on that land. As Lars agonizes over whether to sell this property or not, he comes to a decision by listening to his intuition, his heart.

How does a person do that? Read More…

How You Can Reach Your Unreachable Star

Do you have a “star” that looks impossible to reach, but you know deep down in your heart that you can reach it? This was the case for Coach Doug Wilkins. Forty-four years ago, he had the dream of leading his high school football players to consistent victories. How did Wilkins fulfill his dream? In the past two newsletters we’ve discussed the first two ingredients of Coach Wilkins’ recipe for success: commitment and leadership. What is the third ingredient that led the Mountain Lakes High School football team to 8 state championships and 25 consecutive winning seasons?

The third ingredient is Read More…

If You Hope to Win, You Won’t

There’s no doubt about it, everyone wants to be on the winning team. Some of us have the idea that if our team is more talented than the other team, or if we’re lucky enough or having a good day, we’ll win. But is that true? Does winning just happen?

Not according to Coach Doug Wilkins. Forty-four years ago when he coached his first football season and lost, he realized he’d better come up with a way of winning, or else! What components are necessary for winning? In the last newsletter we discussed the foundation to winning: commitment. The second factor Coach came up with was Read More…

Commitment: The Cornerstone of a Winning Life

How do you take sixty to seventy high school guys with widely differing degrees of athletic ability and mold them into a winning football team? That’s what Coach Doug Wilkins of Denville, New Jersey did for forty-four years, winning twenty-five consecutive seasons from 1985 through 2009, along with eight state championships.

Coach Wilkins didn’t start out that way, though. With a losing first season, he knew something needed to change. This is the first of three newsletters that reveal what Coach Wilkins discovered over the course of his career as a football coach, strategies for winning that can be applied to every area of our lives.

To begin, Coach Wilkins realized he needed a vision. Did he want to Read More…

Stop Kissing Frogs!

The change began with a homeless man in a San Diego park. My friend was talking with various homeless people as part of a Heart of the Samurai exercise, when she looked into one particular man’s pale green eyes. His eyes took her beyond his filthy clothes, the stink of his unbathed body, and his uncut matted hair, because in them she saw a human being. As she spoke with this man, she came to see that he had fallen into a pit of illiteracy, alcoholism and emotional problems that, as of yet, he hadn’t been able to climb out of. After this encounter, she could no longer judge a homeless person, and later when her own son struggled with drug addiction her perspective changed even more. Every homeless person she drove by could be her son. Read More…

Clarify Your Intention to Get Results

Often, people who have been exposed to the concept of intention confuse it with will power. As explained in chapter 2 of If How-To’s Were Enough We Would All Be Skinny, Rich and Happy, intention is not will power. Will power comes from the conscious mind, or head.

Whenever there is a conflict between the subconscious, the heart, and the head, the subconscious will always win. If you say an affirmation with the conscious mind such as, “I am a millionaire,” but your subconscious is saying “Money is scarce,” the results in your life will Read More…

Increase Your Intention Through Visualization

In a recent newsletter we talked about making commitments in order to raise the level of intention and reach our goals. Another way of increasing intention is visualization. If you doubt the power of visualization to do this, then go to a car lot and stare at your dream car. It will not take long before a sales person comes out and asks, “Can you see yourself driving this car?”

Now tell him “No,” even though you want the car! Most likely the salesperson will simply go back inside without further conversation. Why? Because he knows that Read More…