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When Achieving Your Goals is not Enough

The Problem of More, Better, Different Consider Curtis. By his standards his life as a husband, father and general contractor wasn’t lacking. At 41, he made a comfortable amount of money, enjoyed his wife and kids, was a deacon in his church, and owned a house that he considered adequate. But Curtis felt like something […]

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How to Find Your Purpose

Do you know your purpose? If not, you’re in the company of a lot of other people. Like those other people, you might share a feeling of aimlessness and dissatisfaction with life. Something seems to be missing, and you know there’s got to be more. But how does someone go about finding their purpose? Is […]

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Listen to Your Heart

Do you sometimes struggle with making decisions over which you feel conflict? At some time or another, all of us do. When we are in this position, it’s helpful for us to be able to discern what our intuition is telling us. That is why it’s important for us to learn how to listen to […]

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How You Can Reach Your Unreachable Star

Do you have a “star” that looks impossible to reach, but you know deep down in your heart that you can reach it? This was the case for Coach Doug Wilkins. Forty-four years ago, he had the dream of leading his high school football players to consistent victories. How did Wilkins fulfill his dream? In […]

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If You Hope to Win, You Won’t

There’s no doubt about it, everyone wants to be on the winning team. Some of us have the idea that if our team is more talented than the other team, or if we’re lucky enough or having a good day, we’ll win. But is that true? Does winning just happen? Not according to Coach Doug […]

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Commitment: The Cornerstone of a Winning Life

How do you take sixty to seventy high school guys with widely differing degrees of athletic ability and mold them into a winning football team? That’s what Coach Doug Wilkins of Denville, New Jersey did for forty-four years, winning twenty-five consecutive seasons from 1985 through 2009, along with eight state championships. Coach Wilkins didn’t start […]

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Stop Kissing Frogs!

The change began with a homeless man in a San Diego park. My friend was talking with various homeless people as part of a Heart of the Samurai exercise, when she looked into one particular man’s pale green eyes. His eyes took her beyond his filthy clothes, the stink of his unbathed body, and his […]

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Clarify Your Intention to Get Results

Often, people who have been exposed to the concept of intention confuse it with will power. As explained in chapter 2 of If How-To’s Were Enough We Would All Be Skinny, Rich and Happy, intention is not will power. Will power comes from the conscious mind, or head. Whenever there is a conflict between the […]

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Increase Your Intention Through Visualization

In a recent newsletter we talked about making commitments in order to raise the level of intention and reach our goals. Another way of increasing intention is visualization. If you doubt the power of visualization to do this, then go to a car lot and stare at your dream car. It will not take long […]

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What Do Your Clothes, Car, and House Say About You?

We are all creatures of habit. We have habitual ways of brushing our teeth, of communicating with others, and habitual levels of risk we’re willing to take. But if we want to move forward in our lives, we have to break habits. A great way of doing this is to use psychological trigger devices. A […]

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