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What Do Your Clothes, Car, and House Say About You?

We are all creatures of habit. We have habitual ways of brushing our teeth, of communicating with others, and habitual levels of risk we’re willing to take. But if we want to move forward in our lives, we have to break habits. A great way of doing this is to use psychological trigger devices. A […]

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Three Disciplines of a Compassionate Samurai

As a graduate of Klemmer & Associates and one who practices the art of being a compassionate samurai, you understand the importance of maintaining a sharp edge on your thinking. This is an ongoing journey that requires several disciplines. Here are three things you can do to hone your life. Cultivate Relationships: We become like […]

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Two Facets of Leadership

There are two very different facets of leadership: doing the right thing and doing things right. What is the right thing? A right thing is something that is in alignment with a person’s purpose. The difference between having a significant life and a successful life is knowing what your purpose is and how it fits […]

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Be Aware of How You Listen to Improve Your Growth

In a previous newsletter we talked about one of three ways of listening, “being with.” What are the other two ways of listening? One is to agree with whatever is being said, and the other is to disagree. We often listen from a standpoint of whether we’re going to agree with what’s being said, or […]

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What Viewpoint Do You Use: Victim or Responsible?

All of us have a choice in how we look at our circumstances. One choice is the victim viewpoint, the viewpoint that the events in my life are the result of something being done to me. The second is the responsible viewpoint: I am the cause for my experience because of choices I have made. […]

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Getting Past Feedback Fears

Recently we discussed changing our perception about receiving feedback in order to better attain our goals. The flip side of this is giving feedback. When we offer thoughtful feedback to others, we can be part of the solution to problems. Yet why do we sometimes resist giving it? And what are some effective ways to […]

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Taking the Fear Out of Change

How do you deal with change? Do you resist it? Do you try to ignore it and hope it goes away? Or do you embrace change? If there’s one thing that’s true, change is here to stay. Picture yourself in a boat, in a vast ocean representing change. If you become fearful and resist the […]

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The Power of Possibility

Do you want to open up possibilities in your life?  There are crucial differences between living out of possibility versus probability. Living from probability takes place when you look at what you are capable of and what you have done in the past.  From this perspective, you calculate whether you think you can do something […]

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Turn Compliance Into Commitment: Promise and Follow-up

Previously we discussed the first two steps required to change a compliance situation at work into one of commitment: conversation for agreement and request. During a conversation for agreement, my task is to discover what motivates the person I’m speaking with. Once I understand this, I propose a specific action that needs to take place […]

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Turn Compliance Into Commitment: Conversation For Agreement and Request

How do you motivate people to operate out of commitment instead of compliance? There are four steps to make this happen: conversation for agreement, request, promise and follow-up. In this newsletter we’ll discuss the first two steps, conversation for agreement and request. You can also learn more about this subject in a 52-week course, Eating […]

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