Eat Feedback!

By Krystal Zellmer

Who is truly comfortable with receiving feedback? Do only things that make you comfortable move you forward? Get used to receiving feedback, and embrace it, so that you can use it as a tool in your life.

Feedback helps us in making course corrections. Someone else’s vantage point can enable us to see blind spots in our lives. Feedback can also foster relationships. Opening up lines of communication, through feedback, can allow those around you to feel more connected with you because of your openness to hear them.

Unfortunately, we can be resistant to feedback because we tend to confuse Read More…

Growth and Decay

By Krystal Zellmer

Have you ever just hoped that your life would become normal? That your world would be stable? Have you heard the story of Socrates and Plato? If not, here is an overview:

Socrates taught Plato that everything fits into one of three stages. Everything begins at a point of energy from which it expands or grows. This is followed by a period where nothing changes, and finally, it shrinks back to the original point of energy where it began. The first stage is growth, the second is stability and the third is decay.

Plato listened politely and then went off by himself to mull over what he had just heard. Walking along the beach, Plato picked up a piece of driftwood to examine it. He concluded that Read More…

Excited to announce the Giver’s Marketplace

We are excited to announce that the Giver’s Marketplace has launched. If you haven’t yet heard, the Giver’s  Marketplace is an online community driven forum; made for K&A graduates to search for fellow graduate run businesses and charities. At Heart of the Samurai last month the announcement of Giver’s Marketplace made quite an impact. We had business owners sign up to post on the Marketplace and there was a lot of enthusiasm from people who want to use it.
We are excited that the Marketplace is now open for you to experience. We need many more people to post businesses and charitable giving opportunities in order for Giver’s Marketplace to become the amazing tool we envision for all K&A grads. Please visit Giver’s Marketplace to see the initial postings, read our frequently asked questions, and most importantly subscribe to post your own business or charity on the site. Read More…

Overcoming Internal Resistance

By Krystal Zellmer

Sometimes the key piece that we can forget is that resistance in most cases is not external. Most of the time our resistance is within ourselves, battling our own sunglasses. Have you ever thought that the worst things being said to you are the things you say to yourself?

How do you overcome internal resistance? Quit resisting it! First, recognize that you are in resistance. Difficulties are part of the process. Keep your eyes open to the fact that Read More…

Possibility / Probability

By Krystal Zellmer

What does it mean to truly live a life of possibility? Most people live in probability most of their lives. The difference between the two is breaking through a scarcity mindset and stepping into abundance. Easier said than done, right?

Are you defined by your limitations? Could you be liberated by your dreams? Dream boards are an incredible tool for manifesting results in your life. Take a few hours to cut out pictures from magazines of what you desire for your future. You can even print pictures from the internet. Make a collage of all the things you cut out. Hang your Dream Board somewhere in your house. Another solution is to create a Pinterest board as a virtual dream board that you can share with your friends.

Since your mind works in pictures, this Dream Board can be a way to remind your subconscious of your dreams and goals. Check back in a year and see how many amazing things you have accomplished.

Compliance vs Commitment

By Krystal Zellmer

Compliance vs Commitment: these are two very different kinds of motivation. Compliance is a fear based motivation. Usually when someone is in compliance they will finish the task, but their attitude around the task can be negative. Compliance can create results, and it usually is to the minimum necessary to avoid the consequences in place.

Commitment on the other hand, is when the individual has something at stake, but the motivation is not fear. People who are committed have Read More…

It is not about anything but rebound time

By Krystal Zellmer

Who is still beating themselves up for finding yourself in the 3 R’s? Or upset that you instantly made up a negative meaning to a situation? Maybe for you it is that you are still arguing to “Be Right” when you can see beyond that vantage point. That’s great news! It means you are Read More…

Fact/Meaning- do you have 360 degree vision on every situation?

By Krystal Zellmer

Fact/meaning has been one of the most enormous breakthroughs in my Klemmer journey. The notion that I get to choose to create whatever meaning I want, applied to every fact in my life, is absolutely liberating! I have gone back to a few dark places in my life, and re-wrote my own meaning around the situations.

But for me, it is the everyday application of fact/meaning that has been such a blessing. How much time would you say that you spend daily in your made-up meaning of a situation? Read More…

What are you prejudiced about?

By Krystal Zellmer

A major problem with changing our programming is that most of the time we do not even know that programs are running us. Sometimes I desperately want to take off my sunglasses, but just cannot seem to find them. One easy way to locate a pair of sunglasses is to examine that about which you are prejudiced.  What you are prejudice about?

Ever think that the “young crowd” is texting too much at the table? Or wonder why every single detail of their lives is on Facebook? The other day I was on a call with a few teens from our Youth Leadership Camp (a combination of our Personal Mastery and Advanced Leadership Course for teens age 12-18; if you would like more information on what we offer for youth please contact Kari Roman at While on the phone, one teen asked another if she had found friends yet at college. I was astonished! These are two people who hadn’t talked in months, yet they had kept up with and supported one another via social media platforms! My personal set of sunglasses (prejudice) was that social media was just another thing that sucked away at my time. In removing that particular set of sunglasses, I realized that it could be so much more than that, and truly a tool for people to feel a sense of connection.

There are many places in our lives that we are prejudiced about something. My challenge to you is what are you prejudiced about? Are you willing to take a second look? What do you find yourself in judgment around? It might be one more time in your life where you get to take off a pair of sunglasses and see a color that you previously could not have seen.

Developing an Attitude of Abundance

A Brian Klemmer original

In days of economic uncertainty, it’s especially important to cultivate an attitude of abundance. How can we switch from a scarcity mindset to one of abundance?

One key is to recognize opportunities. Here’s a story that illustrates this. Once there was a fisherman who caught a large fish. Bringing out his ruler, the man measured his catch: twenty inches. The man threw the fish back. Soon after, his rod wiggled again. This fish measured only five inches and the fisherman dropped it into his bucket. And so it went. The fisherman kept every fish under twelve inches and threw back every fish of greater size. Finally, Read More…