Are we all controllers?

By Krystal Zellmer

At Personal Mastery we all got the opportunity to learn about the Four Quadrants. We got to see which quadrant we primarily sit in, and how to relate with others who are not in our quadrant of communication.

Controllers are sometimes given a hard time for their communication style, and sometimes it seems as though people do not want to be seen as a “controller.” I personally am proud to be a controller, and I can understand that being a controller can sometimes interfere with our need to be liked, but isn’t every Read More…

Do you need to be right?

By Krystal Zellmer

We all share a common pair of sunglasses known as our need to be right. This is the need for one person to be right, and the other wrong. Please do not hear this in the sense of morality. This program runs rampant among us, and can be one of the most difficult programs to change. If you can remove this set of sunglasses, right and wrong would not even exist. What would open up would be abundant opportunities and possibility.

The thought that “responsibility” is “fault” is an example of Read More…

Build Yourself a Pipeline

By Krystal Zellmer

Imagine two men in a village. Both have to walk a mile each way every day to a river to get water for their families. After a month, one man starts working on building a pipe underground to connect the river to his house. For an entire year he expends extra energy working on his pipeline. When he finishes, he has the resource of the water directly to his house, while the second man continues to walk to the river.

Are there places in your life where you are living day to day? What are the prices and benefits to that decision? Most people can see the prices, and there are benefits! It takes a ton of additional effort to create a pipeline in your life. For an entire year, the first man Read More…

Giver’s Marketplace Profile



Each week we will be profiling one of our Giver’s Marketplace members. Members of the Marketplace are all Klemmer graduates who are active in business or fundraising. You can check all of them out at,  for this first profile we are highlighting Dr. Pamela Fowers. She is our newest member of the Marketplace. We chose to start with her because she is in the midst of a Kickstarter campaign to fund the manufacturing of an invention, the campaign ends on November 18th. Dr. Fowers is a chiropractor, her life’s work is helping people relieve pain and restore balance in their bodies. She has invented the Sping Thing, it is an affordable handheld massage tool, that really works. Dr. Fowers brought a prototype of the Spring Thing to Advanced Leadership last week and gave us the chance to try it ourselves.

The Giver’s Marketplace Profiles will include a personal message from Kimberly Zink about the graduate and business or cause being profiled. Below is her message about Dr. Fowers and the Spring Thing.

Pam Fowers has been a dear friend for over 10 years. We met at her ALS while I was staffing. She then continued her journey with K&A through Sam Camp, where I was privileged to coach her to 100% completion of her goals. This was simply the beginning of a very fruitful and loving connection. She was part of building one of the largest Personal Masterys in K&A’s history. I have always valued my connection with Pam as one of love and professionalism. I was so excited to hear from her again last week and celebrate her latest achievement. She has created a magnificent device that helps everyone to feel better. I am sharing my excitement about it, and told her I would look forward to buying this new product for myself personally. As she is a member of the Giver’s Marketplace I thought all of you should be aware of what Pam, as a Klemmer grad, has created. Even though Pam lives 2.5 hours from San Francisco she jumped in her car and met me at ALS so I could experience the device in person. Well, she was correct, this massage device is different from anything I have experienced in the past. Pain that I have come to accept after being on the road for 2-3 weeks was relieved in minutes.

I am excited about the future of this Kickstarter project. Go to the Giver’s Marketplace on to find out more information.

We are building the Giver’s Marketplace as a resource to create a SAFE and profitable space in an integrous way in the near future. Come join the fun!
Kimberly Zink


By Krystal Zellmer

The choice between the viewpoints of victim and responsible is consistently going to be a decision with which we are faced. Have you ever thought, “I honestly am the victim in this situation!” Being a victim, in this context, is the viewpoint that something is being done to you. Being responsible is not about whether or not you were victimized, but your outlook on the situation. It is about creating the liberty for you to move forward in your life however you see fit.

Two people that have been put in the exact same situation can choose either victim or responsible. It is not about the circumstances; it is always about Read More…

Is Caring Worth It?

By Krystal Zellmer

Have you ever had an experience where you felt burned by a relationship? Do you ever feel like you stick your neck out for people and it gets chopped off?  Can you accept that people are human and are going to occasionally disappoint you?

Your choice is where you go from there. How do you truly live your life as a Compassionate Samurai? Use three of the exercises from Personal Mastery to help you overcome your last heartache. Start by looking at the situation from a responsible place versus from a victim mentality. Responsible not meaning, “I am responsible, so you are not.” Responsible also does not mean, “You are responsible, so I am not.” Responsible is a viewpoint for Read More…

Introducing the Giver’s Marketplace

A young woman who recently attended Youth Leadership Camp took the time to write a thank you letter expressing her gratitude for her experience at Camp, she wrote:

“…I now know who I am. I now know what true friends are, and I now know what is holding me back. I can chase my dream, my HUGE dream, and I know I will achieve it!…”.

What amazing life lessons to learn at a young age!
Mustard Seed Scholarship FundWhat is equally amazing is that this young woman would not have been at Youth Leadership Camp if it weren’t for generous donations to The Mustard Seed Scholarship Fund. Over the past year we have been heartened to see that many of our grads have been willing to make these kinds of experiences possible for people they’ve never met. This year the Scholarship fund helped 12 young people attend the Youth Leadership Camps where they all experienced life changing breakthroughs.

As our community of graduates continues to grow, we have had requests from many of our grads to create more opportunities for interaction with the K&A community outside of our training room. We are excited to tell you about our answer to these requests, The Giver’s Marketplace. The Marketplace is a true win-win for you as a grad, and for future Mustard Seed Scholarship recipients.

The Giver’s Marketplace is an online community where K&A grads can connect with each other. The Marketplace provides you with the opportunity to connect with fellow Compassionate Samurai around products, charities and business opportunities. Some of our dedicated grads have created profiles on the Marketplace already and have started receiving requests to connect with other users. We are enthusiastic about the Giver’s Marketplace because it is a great example of a win-win. Our grads win because they get to do business with fellow grads and potential K&A students win because all the people posting on the Marketplace have agreed to generously donate to the Mustard Seed Fund, and K&A wins as our community of Compassionate Samurai continues to expand.

We are looking forward to touching even more lives in the upcoming years through the Mustard Seed Fund. The donations that come in from the Giver’s Marketplace are going to be a big part in making this life changing work available to even more people in 2016 and beyond. Your use of the Marketplace is what will make this all possible. Please head over to the Giver’s Marketplace to set up your own posting, and start building connections with your fellow Compassionate Samurai!

Reuben Romandy

Eat Feedback!

By Krystal Zellmer

Who is truly comfortable with receiving feedback? Do only things that make you comfortable move you forward? Get used to receiving feedback, and embrace it, so that you can use it as a tool in your life.

Feedback helps us in making course corrections. Someone else’s vantage point can enable us to see blind spots in our lives. Feedback can also foster relationships. Opening up lines of communication, through feedback, can allow those around you to feel more connected with you because of your openness to hear them.

Unfortunately, we can be resistant to feedback because we tend to confuse Read More…

Growth and Decay

By Krystal Zellmer

Have you ever just hoped that your life would become normal? That your world would be stable? Have you heard the story of Socrates and Plato? If not, here is an overview:

Socrates taught Plato that everything fits into one of three stages. Everything begins at a point of energy from which it expands or grows. This is followed by a period where nothing changes, and finally, it shrinks back to the original point of energy where it began. The first stage is growth, the second is stability and the third is decay.

Plato listened politely and then went off by himself to mull over what he had just heard. Walking along the beach, Plato picked up a piece of driftwood to examine it. He concluded that Read More…

Excited to announce the Giver’s Marketplace

We are excited to announce that the Giver’s Marketplace has launched. If you haven’t yet heard, the Giver’s  Marketplace is an online community driven forum; made for K&A graduates to search for fellow graduate run businesses and charities. At Heart of the Samurai last month the announcement of Giver’s Marketplace made quite an impact. We had business owners sign up to post on the Marketplace and there was a lot of enthusiasm from people who want to use it.
We are excited that the Marketplace is now open for you to experience. We need many more people to post businesses and charitable giving opportunities in order for Giver’s Marketplace to become the amazing tool we envision for all K&A grads. Please visit Giver’s Marketplace to see the initial postings, read our frequently asked questions, and most importantly subscribe to post your own business or charity on the site. Read More…