What Do Your Clothes, Car, and House Say About You?

We are all creatures of habit. We have habitual ways of brushing our teeth, of communicating with others, and habitual levels of risk we’re willing to take. But if we want to move forward in our lives, we have to break habits. A great way of doing this is to use psychological trigger devices.

A psychological trigger device is something that causes us to think, act or feel differently. An example I often use is love songs. Perhaps you have a song attached to a certain relationship. That relationship may have been over for many years, but if you are driving down the street and that song comes on the radio, it can trigger all kinds of feelings linked to that relationship.

The key is to start seeing that almost everything is a trigger device. They can be positive or negative. For instance, the clothes you wear have certain triggers about how you feel. You’re in style. You’re out of style. You’re overweight. You’re sexy. Or, what is your car telling you? Does it trigger that you’re Joe Mediocre? That you’re frugal? It’s not that certain kinds of cars are good or bad. It just depends on what the car triggers inside you.

Most of the time we don’t even recognize trigger devices and the feelings, thoughts and actions they produce. Occasionally I’ll run into somebody who’s getting divorced and they’ve moved their wedding ring to the other hand. My comment to them is: “Get rid of it!” Why? Because every look at that ring triggers that they’re a failure in terms of committed relationships. Even if the ring cost five grand, it’s better to turn it into something neutral such as cash.

So, take a look around you. What do your clothes, car, house, and friends say about you? And then, be proactive. Here are some ideas to help you put psychological trigger devices into practice.
1. Put positive trigger devices into places that cause you to think, feel and behave according to your impeccable eye.

2. Put signs around your house that reference concepts you learned in Klemmer seminars. I have one above my bed that says, “He who attempts the impossible has little competition.” When I see that saying, it triggers me to take risks beyond my normal risk level.

3. Write the 3R’s on a note and rubber band it to the ketchup bottle so that when you do this mundane act of getting ketchup out for your hamburger, you’re triggered to think of the 3R’s and how you might be in resistance, resentment or revenge.

4. Put a red dot of nail polish on your watch to remind yourself of one of your goals. You can learn more about this psychological trigger device in my series, The Pursuit & Practice of Personal Mastery.

5. Use physical objects as symbols. I surround myself with eagles because they have incredible vision and because they fail six or seven times out of ten before they succeed in catching their prey. When I see an eagle I’m prompted to ask myself, How far am I looking down the road? and Am I hung up on failure?




5 Responses to “What Do Your Clothes, Car, and House Say About You?”

  1. Avording says:

    This is great! Thank you! I was watching this morning the photographes where I climbed the pole and jumped to the trapezium, my dream,at one of your courses. It remembers me that I can do which I first thought I was not going to do! So I will hang these photographes in a place where I see them regularly during the day!!!

  2. Kkroeger says:

    This is so powerful for me and I have triggers in a variety of ways to keep me focused in a positive way. I have set a goal to have 2 CW’s and 2 PM in New Hampshire next year.

  3. Gina says:

    …and that’s also what I love about Klemmer newsletters – they are psychological triggers in themselves!

  4. Amelia Horton says:

    This lesson was right on time for me. I was looking through other lessons to choose one to go along with my journaling class today and this one popped right up. Thank you for the encouraging words that truly inspire me and others who enter into my circle.

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